Dating tips for geeks
I think you’d be doing the world a great service by putting out a few (non-gendered) ways to check in with someone you’re dating about your hopes and feelings about the relationship.I recently started going to therapy for some pretty serious self esteem issues that had led to me isolating myself for a long time. He is really good looking, funny, shows interest in learning more about me (sadly uncommon! Physically, he is moving much slower than I would prefer. Because I live in the city and he doesn’t, I have planned all our dates, so I don’t feel like I’m learning what he likes to do.I’m sure I should communicate that I feel uncomfortable chatting with a coworker on a dating site, so do you have any scripts for that?Or would it be better to just block him and pretend it never happened?He stares at me a lot when we are together and it makes me feel uncomfortable, like he is waiting to kiss me instead of enjoying time hanging out together.
He also said he hasn’t gotten this far with a date in a long time, and he has “reasons” for being so awkward. The real problem is that all this talk about being awkward makes me feel extremely angry and panicked.I’ve been dating a person for almost 3 months, and he is terrific and lovely. I know we’re both currently not seeing anyone else.My general impression is that he’s interested in a relationship, but ‘impressions’ are not hard evidence and I just want to address it explicitly without my inner FEELINGS-VORTEX getting in the way.I find it very presumptuous that he assumes his “reasons” or trauma are worse than mine. I am also angry that he won’t be patient and give the relationship a chance to unfold.I feel like he is already emotionally committed, and that he doesn’t want to “screw it up.” It’s putting a lot of pressure on me.